What you are facing
Maybe nothing is truly wrong. But it does not add up any more either.
You do not need a clear diagnosis or a major trauma to talk to a psychologist. Sometimes you mainly notice that you are tired of yourself, of the thinking, or of the life you have built up over the years.
Below are the themes people most often come to me with. They tend to run into each other, so you do not have to decide which box you fit in.
Perfectionism and self criticism
You want to do things well and take responsibility seriously. That has probably brought you a great deal. But when good never feels good enough, you drift further from rest and satisfaction. We look at which beliefs feed your high bar and what happens when you try to let go.
Always being on
Your body is tired, but your head keeps going. Even in your free time you think about what still has to happen, what could have been better, or what someone else expects of you. Together we look not only at ways to settle down, but above all at why your system finds it so hard to actually stop.
Doubt about work, relationship or direction
Around the middle of life, old choices can suddenly start to chafe. You have built a lot, and that is exactly why changing is complicated. We bring order to what you feel, what you think you are supposed to want, and what genuinely suits you.
Having lost yourself
You have spent a long time caring, performing and adapting. You may be able to say precisely what others need, and far less about what you want yourself. In the conversations we make contact again with your own values, limits and wishes.
Anxiety, fear of failure or tension
Some people know rationally that there is little danger, while their body reacts differently. Around presenting, flying, driving, exams or rejection. We look at where the anxiety comes from and what is needed to break the pattern of avoidance.
An experience that keeps working on you
A harsh appraisal, a separation, a loss, a medical event, rejection or a moment of powerlessness can hold influence for a long time. That does not have to be a severe trauma. When such an experience still carries a lot of emotional charge, EMDR can be part of the support.
When my practice is not the right place
My practice is not intended for acute crisis care, severe addiction, psychosis, active suicidal thoughts or complex psychiatric difficulties that require specialist treatment. With severe or complex trauma I look carefully at whether specialist mental health care is a better fit.
Tell me briefly what is going on
In a free fifteen minute phone call I would like to hear what you are running into. Then we look at whether an intake is a sensible next step.